I am one that loves to make New Year resolutions every single year. Honestly, for the most part, I seem to crush my goals and move onto new things each year. The only real hang up I seem to have recently is getting some unwanted weight off… which seems to be EVERYONE’s goal but that’s a blog post for another time. This year my big goal is geared toward my husband – I want to make him a priority again. I am totally not saying he wasn’t or isn’t a priority but with three boys and a crazy hectic schedule – things tend to go towards the children. I feel like now that things are a little more settled for the time being and my kids are getting older & less reliant on me, this is a great year to put a plan into place.
I have heard people talk about the book The Five Love Languages, often and how I really should read it. Its been years, but I finally got the chance this winter break to read it and take the online quiz. I also, had my husband take the quiz and much to my surprise we both have quality time as our number one ” love language”. I really didn’t expect that to be what we both require in our relationship and it was an eye-opener for me. For about a week I kept analyzing how I could use this book to make things even better with our marriage. I came up with a plan that I am very excited about. Now, I have to say I am lucky to have a wonderful mom that will help me with the kids whenever needed so it made it a little easier for me to plan out. The really cool part is I kept most of this a secret until recently too!
After reading the book, and taking in the information – I knew I needed to change a couple things in my life to spend more time with him. As I began my list – evenings were my first things to fix. Granted, I am a very busy person and I love to keep everything organized and clean. He is exactly the same way and I believe that is why we work together as a team beautifully, but his evenings seemed much easier than mine. He always makes time to sit down and enjoy at least an hour before bed. For years now, he will ask me to join him and some nights I do, while others I spend it getting the house cleaned up, dishes out of the sink, laundry started… whatever! For these first couple weeks of 2018, I now sit down with him almost every single night. He is more important right now to me. The housework will get done eventually, and he is beyond happy! To most people, it seems like an easy adjustment, but for myself, it is still hard some nights.
The second area I decided to focus on for the year is date nights. We tend to not take them very often unless it’s our anniversary or I start feeling like we really need to get out. Even then, it seems like it can be super hard to get it planned and actually figure out things to do. We mostly just go to dinner or the movies. I feel like we need a little more excitement! I came up with the idea that I would plan a night out every two months or so. I want each date to have a variety of activities. Our first one is actually this upcoming weekend. We are spending the entire weekend in Laughlin! I am seriously so excited to just get away for a weekend with just the two of us. I have lots of ideas for the upcoming months whether it be double dates, shows, sporting events, motorcycle rides… but whatever we decide to do, it should be fun. Sometimes life can get in the way and your marriage takes the back seat. I get it, but it doesn’t have to stay that way! If you haven’t had a chance to take the online quiz or read the book, I highly suggest reading it. I will put the link below for you. If you have read the book, make sure to comment on which love language you are! I’d love to hear your stories!